Things narcissistic mothers say to their sons
Narcissistic mothers often speak harsh and hurtful words to their sons, exploiting their vulnerabilities and prioritizing their own needs and desires. Here are some common comments made by such mothers:
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"You think you're so special, but you're just like your father."
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"You're not good enough."
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"There's no one else like you."
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"You should be more like your brother."
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"I'm sorry you made that decision."
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"You're only thinking about yourself."
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"I wish I had a son who I could rely on."
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"You're such a failure."
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"It's all your fault."
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"If you truly loved me, you would [do this or say this]."
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"You're never ready for [specific occasion or challenge]."
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"You could have done better with [specific task or responsibility]."
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"I'm the only one who can make you happy."
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"I gave up my career for you– you should be grateful."
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"You're just like your father; you never listen."
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"Why can't you be more like [another son who is favored]?"
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"Your sister got all As, why can't you achieve the same?"
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"I'm not sure I'd be able to raise another child as well as I've done with you."
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"You're not going to amount to anything."
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"I'm disappointed in you."
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"You're so dramatic."
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"There's no need for that."
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"You're only concerned about yourself."
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"I don't understand why you're so sensitive."
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"You only think about your own success."
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"You're not a team player."
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"You're going to end up alone."
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"I'm tired of carrying you."
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"You always make the same mistakes."
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"You need to grow up and take responsibility for your actions."
These comments are indicative of the manipulative and controlling behavior common among narcissistic parents. They prioritize their own desires and comfort over the needs and well-being of their children. By speaking negatively and unfairly, these mothers undermine their children's confidence, self-esteem, and ability to form healthy relationships. It is crucial for these daughters to identify and reject this toxic behavior, seeking healing and development of resilience and self-esteem.