The term “narcissist” has become increasingly common in everyday conversation, often without a full understanding of the serious mental health issues behind it. While some may misuse the term to describe a self-centered or arrogant person, narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) is a diagnosable mental health condition that involves persistent and inappropriate behaviors. This quiz aims to shed light on the common traits of narcissism, which may indicate a partner’s behavior could be considered narcissistic.
Is My Husband a Narcissist? Quiz
- Does your partner lack empathy?
- No, he usually shows that he understands and cares about my feelings.
- He sometimes struggles to empathize with my emotions.
- Yes, he often lacks empathy for how I'm feeling.
- Does your partner make you question your judgment, feelings, or memory?
- No, he doesn't usually make me question myself.
- Sometimes he makes me doubt myself.
- He often makes me question myself.
- Do your partner's feelings seem more important than your own?
- No, my partner tends to value our emotions equally.
- Sometimes I feel like my partner values his emotions more than mine.
- I often feel like my partner thinks his feelings are more important.
- Is your husband often preoccupied with status or how others view him?
- No, these aren't the most important things to him.
- He can sometimes be preoccupied with status or appearances.
- Yes, he's often consumed with how others perceive him.
- How does your boyfriend respond to criticism?
- He can usually take constructive criticism relatively well.
- Sometimes he can accept feedback, but other times he struggles with this.
- He does not take constructive feedback well.
- Would you describe your husband's behavior as controlling?
- No, he's not usually controlling.
- He can sometimes be controlling.
- Yes, I see him as very controlling.
- Do you feel like your partner thinks that he is better than you?
- No, I believe he sees us as equals.
- I sometimes get the sense that he thinks he's better than me.
- I often feel like he thinks he's superior to me.
- Would you say that your partner has an arrogant attitude?
- No, he doesn't usually come off that way.
- He can sometimes be arrogant.
- Yes, he often comes off as arrogant.
- Do you think your boyfriend would throw you under the bus if it made him look better or helped him get what he wanted?
- No, I don't think he would do that.
- Sometimes I feel like he might.
- Yes, I think he would put me down if it benefitted him.
- Does your partner have a strong sense of entitlement?
- No, he doesn't come off as entitled.
- He can sometimes act entitled.
- Yes, he often has a sense of entitlement.
Interpreting your results
If most of your answers were C, you may be in a narcissistic relationship. Remember, this quiz can't provide a mental health diagnosis. However, it was designed around the common symptoms of narcissistic personality disorder, including
- Grandiose sense of self-importance,
- Preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love,
- A belief that he or she is special and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people or institutions,
- A need for excessive admiration; craving narcissistic supply,
- A sense ofitlement,
- Interpersonally exploitive behavior,
- A lack of empathy,
- Envy of others or a belief that others are envious of him or her,
- A demonstration of arrogant and haughty behaviors or attitudes.
If your answers were mostly A's or B's, this doesn't necessarily rule out narcissism. You felt called to take this "Is he a narcissist" quiz for a reason, so there may be other mental health issues or relationship dynamics at play.
Spouse's Dilemma
Having a narcissistic partner can be emotionally and financially exhausting. If your relationship is primarily based on your partner's needs and wants, it may lead to a lot of conflict and dissatisfaction. It's important to communicate openly about your expectations and boundaries to create a healthy and satisfying partnership.
Taking Charge of Your Life
It's essential to take control of your own life, especially when dealing with a narcissistic partner. This includes setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and fostering healthy relationships. If you're in a relationship with a narcissist, it may be necessary to consider a separation, even if it's difficult. It's crucial to have a support system in place to help navigate the challenges of dating and marriage.
