The desire to be "normal" has become an all-too-common wish, usually forming when an individual encounters an overwhelming personal struggle they wish to erase. In my practice, I most often see these struggles in the form of anxiety and depression. Clients often feel that these mental health struggles make them different from others, that their negative experiences, emotions, and thoughts have placed them in some sort of "abnormal" category, an exclusive, imaginary club where all the troubled, wrong, and outcast individuals reside.
The concept of "normal" has become intertwined with societal perceptions and norms, leading to misunderstandings about what constitutes a healthy emotional life. Normality is often equated with an absence of troubles and worry, a state of smooth sailing through life's various domains. Yet, this simplified definition fails to capture the complexity and emotionality of human life. People experiencing mental health challenges are simply trying to navigate the same challenges that everyone else does, yet they may face additional obstacles and societal stigma.
One factor contributing to this misunderstanding is the role of social comparison in shaping our perception of normality. When we compare ourselves to others, we Often Only See the surface-level aspects of their lives, which can create unrealistic expectations and a sense of inadequacy. Additionally, we tend to forget that people are more willing to share their successes and positive experiences, which can give the impression that their lives are idealized and "normal."
Stigma plays a significant role in the pursuit of normality. Many individuals grappling with mental health struggles choose to keep their sorrows private to avoid judgment or pity. This secrecy can lead to feelings of isolation and isolation, further exacerbating their emotional Well-being., the concept of "normal" as it is currently practiced is fraught with misunderstandings and societal biases that can hinder individuals from receiving the support and understanding they need. Instead of striving toward an idealized version of normalized behavior, it is crucial to recognize that each individual's mental health journey is unique and that seeking help and support is brave and commendable. By talking openly about our struggles and supporting one another, we can create a more compassionate and understanding culture that recognizes the value of all journeys.
