Al Anon Dos and Don’ts:

Welcome to Al-Anon, the global fellowship of family and friends of alcoholics. If you're reading this, you've taken the first step towards healing and recovery. But navigating the complex world of Al-Anon can be daunting. Let us help you navigate the dos and don'ts of this international program with grace and purpose.

Dos:

1. Forgive: Begin by forgiving yourself and your loved ones for the harm caused by alcoholism. This is not easy, but forgiveness is a key part of the recovery process.

2. Be Honest with Yourself: Understanding the depth of your addiction is crucial for making informed decisions and for seeking the appropriate help.

3. Be Humble: No one is perfect, and recognizing your shortcomings is the first step towards change.

4. Take It Easy: Tension and stress can exacerbate alcohol cravings and the disease of alcoholism. Practice relaxation techniques and avoid stress.

5. Play: Find leisure activities that bring you joy and help you forget your burdens.

6. Keep On Trying: Whenever you fail, get back up and try again. Recovery is a process, not a destination.

7. Learn All the Facts: Understand the science behind alcoholism and how it affects the body and mind. This knowledge will empower you to make healthier choices.

8. Attend Al-Anon Meetings Often: The support of fellow alumni is invaluable. Attend meetings regularly to connect with others on the same journey and share your experiences.

9. Pray: Ask for guidance and strength from a Higher Power, whether you believe in God, Allah, Buddha, or another religion.

Don'ts:

1. Be Self-Righteous: Don't be quick to judge or criticize others. Remember, everyone is working towards recovery.

2. Try to Domininate, Nag, Scold or Complain: Instead, approach your loved ones with empathy and understanding. Focus on solutions, not problems.

3. Lose Your Temper: Keep your cool and avoid conflicts when discussing sensitive topics related to alcoholism.

4. Try to Push Anyone But Yourself: Al-Anon is about personal growth, not manipulation. Focus on helping others, not on solving your own problems.

5. Keep Bringing Up the Past: It's time to let go of the past and focus on the present and future.

6. Keep Checking Up on the Alcoholic: Your loved one is in recovery, not in control. Let them make their own choices and mistakes.

7. Wallow in Self-Pity: Give yourself the space to heal and grow. Don't dwell on your own suffering.

8. **Make Threats You Don't Intend to Carry Out:**誓言是承诺，如果无法兑现，请事先坦诚相对。

9. Be Overprotective: Allow your loved one the space to make their own decisions. Overprotection can hinder their recovery.

10. Be a Doormat: Don't expect others to serve you; be polite and respectful in all your interactions.

By following these dos and don'ts, you'll find yourself on the path to recovery and a deeper understanding of the Al-Anon fellowship. Remember, recovery is a journey, not a race. Embrace the process, and you'll see the beauty of Al-Anon grow before your eyes.