Overview
Ongoing Traumatic Relationship Syndrome, commonly known as OTRS, is a dynamic that can occur in intimate relationships where one partner, often referred to as the " NT spouse," experiences ongoing trauma due to psychological traumatic impacts. This syndrome is characterized by persistent mental and emotional health issues resulting from repeated exposure to emotional and psychological abuse within the home.
Definition
OTRS is a trauma-based syndrome that can affect people over a long period when they are subjected to repeated psychological traumatic impacts within a close relationship. Symptoms can include physical illnesses, stress-related health problems, depression, fear, loss of self-esteem, doubt of own reality, loneliness, fatigue, involuntary social isolation, and more.
Causes
OTRS is primarily caused by psychological trauma experienced by the NT spouse during prolonged relationships with someone with disabilities, such as autism spectrum disorders (ASD). These disabilities can limit the ability to engage in reciprocal relationships, causing emotional and psychological abuse.
NT Spouse Experience
The NT spouse, often responsible for managing the household and caring for the daily needs of the family, may feel overlooked or unseen. Their emotional and mental health may suffer as they try to navigate the complexities of the relationship and manage the demands of caring for their family.
Symptoms
The symptoms of OTRS can be similar to those seen from emotional abuse, including reductions in self-esteem, confusion, anger, depression, anxiety, guilt, dissociation, social phobias, and more. The NT spouse may also experience physical symptoms from emotional stress, such as headaches, fatigue, insomnia, and weight changes.
Treatment and Support
OTRS is a normal response in neurotypical people due to prolonged traumatic stress, and typically requires professional help. Support groups, therapy, and counseling can provide insight and coping mechanisms for those navigating these complex relationships.
Resources
- FAAAS Inc. – Offers support and resources for families affected by Asperger syndrome.
- Asperger Partnership – Provides resources and support for Asperger couples and individuals.
- Psych Central – Offers tips for coping with emotional abuse and abuse in relationships.
##OTRS is a serious syndrome that affects the NT spouse and family members of individuals with disabilities like ASD. It is important for professionals and loved ones to recognize the signs of OTRS and seek appropriate support and resources to address these often misunderstood and neglected relationships. By doing so, NT spouses and children can receive the help they need to overcome the trauma and move forward towards healthier, more equitable relationships.