My initial thoughts on the discovery of my wife's vibrator in her bedside drawer were certainly unsettling. The thought of a normal, healthy woman using such a device was not something I was accustomed to hearing. As I slowly realized that a vibrator was indeed inside my wife's drawers, my confusion and embarrassment turned into a sense of betrayal. How could she have kept such a personal item from me? I felt cheated.
The more I thought about the situation, the more I understood that I was not the one who had been dishonest. The vibrators, which are devices that are commonly used for self-stimulation, had found their way into my wife's private space. She could easily have ordered them online or found them at various stores. It didn't take much research to figure out where she might have obtained them.
In hindsight, I think my wife had wanted me to find it. Perhaps she was trying to open up a conversation about her sexual needs and desires with me. After all, she often mentioned that she orgasms infrequently and that she sometimes found it difficult to achieve an earth-shattering sensation. Now that I had stumbled upon the vibrator, it seemed like a natural opportunity to have the conversation that we had been avoiding.
I decided to approach my wife and express my concerns and feelings. When I finally mustered the courage to talk to her about it, she was somewhat surprised and defensive. "I didn't buy it yourself," she said. "How could you think that?" I tried to remain calm and rational, but inside I was seething with jealousy and anger.
I knew that my expectations in our marriage had changed significantly over the years. As she entered her thirties and our life began to settle down, I had come to expect more from our sexual relationship. I had hoped that our sexual needs would be met by each other, but now it seemed like we were both struggling to communicate and connect in that area.
I wanted to explain that I would not share the vibrator with her and that I expected that we would have to find a way to adjust our sexual expectations. After all, we had been married for 12 years and our relationship had seen its fair share of ups and downs. I believed that we could work through this and find a way to maintain our communication and openness.
However, this situation has left me feeling betrayed and confused. I hope that she can find the courage and honesty to talk to me about what she is feeling and what her expectations are for our future sexual relationship. Without open communication and a willingness to understand each other's needs, our relationship will continue to be fraught with tension and misunderstandings.
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